I believe with all of my being that parents really want the BEST for their child and they are doing their VERY BEST to build them into the person that they were meant to be.
Now, the tricky part to that is there are no guidebooks, no maps, and no compass as to which direction is going to achieve that outcome.
And as a master coach, I have been partnering with parents for over twenty years to try to build their child up and give them every advantage that any parent would want. That has been a journey filled with many emotions.
For me, it was a struggle to feel good enough, worthy enough, and even smart enough to follow what I was meant to do in life – this very thing you are reading about right now. My insecurities and fears held me back from reaching my full potential for way to long.
My childhood wasn’t bad by any means. However, there is a common thread between my childhood and those of the children that I help with my program – one or both parents tend to be overly critical. This was my father. He would watch me do something or review something I just did and after some time of observation he would begin to rip into what I was doing and simply point out what I was doing wrong.
Basically, he was critical about everything I did. But, it wasn’t just me. He was critical to my brother, my sister, and everyone around him. The only thing I heard were critiques and judgments to why something I was doing wasn’t right.
Let me tell you…this was demoralizing and destructive over time. I spent decades reversing the damage that this “fixed” mindset created. It fueled my fears and doubts. It was the underlying notion that my attitude was fixated on for so long that I didn’t even realize what was happening, until one day I overheard two friends speaking about me.
They didn’t know I had heard them, but I was ashamed of what I heard. Now, I knew better than to blame my father for the same attitude I was raised in. I knew that I had the power to change my course and do things differently. I just needed to find the power to reach my potential.
I decided to take a stand, and in 1996, I began to change the scope of the landscape when it came to building kids, teens, and adults. I was in the Marine Corps at the time and I realized quickly that the model of breaking down a person to build them up wasn’t working. It might work during boot camp, but once that is over it didn’t work anymore.
That is when I started researching and reading everything I could on influencing people and motivating them. I found out you can’t motivate anyone to do anything they don’t want to do.
That is right! Not even your child will do what you want unless THEY want to do it. But, you want them to clean their room, pick up their toys or games, put away their things in the right place, do their homework, and all the other countless tasks they need to get done. Oh yeah…and you want them to have a positive attitude while doing all that every day.
So, how do you do that? Well, if you are following the old model that came from who knows where…you will be shouting orders, being critical, and telling them what they aren’t doing right and how they need to fix it so it’s PERFECT!
And, I am going to be the first to admit that I was just like that for many years…too many actually. I was critical on kids, teens, and adults and simply built more fears and doubts in their mind.
I would hear their bad attitude; however, I kept being critical and kept pointing out what they weren’t getting right and how bad their attitude was. This only built one thing – resentment.
I thought they needed to change, but in reality I was the one who needed to change my approach. I needed to first seek to understand before being understood. Instead of passing on the same old model that I was built in, I wanted to pass on something more powerful, something less destructive, and something more rewarding. It was to help parents, help children, and help this world become something better.
It was this model that I found great success building children, teens, and adults into powerful people:
- Encourage
- Praise
- Recognize
- Reward
With this direct and simple but very effective model, I help build children, teens, and adults into unstoppable individuals. They are happier, more fulfilled, and have less fears, doubts, and poor attitudes. Their barriers to resistance begin to crumble.
Building Powerful Kids empowers you as the parent to be what you will always be to them – their first and last teacher. This program empowers you to build them into strong, confident, and productive individuals to set out and follow their dreams in life.
Building Powerful Kids reverses your worry about your child feeling defeated, unworthy, and never having the courage to reach their potential.
Now, I teach this to you and thousands of parents and families around the world to build powerful kids and teens so they have less anger and more joy. You get to learn how to build them and keep building them for the rest of their life.
All the best, Master Jason Froehlich